If you're looking for a well-conducted local 9/11 memorial event to attend, I would urge you to head down to Lake Harriet and take in the Linden Hills 911 Tribute:
The 7th Annual 9-11 Tribute will again take place on Thursday, September 11, 2008 at 7:00 p.m. at the Lake Harriet Band Shell. Join us for another evening of music and remembrance of the events that took place on 9-11-2001. We will again have a march for the young people. All that participate will receive an American Flag to wave.
A complete list of the top notch musical performers and concert program is available here. It features a bevy of American songs and composers such as Copland, Barber, Randall Thompson, Sousa, and Irving Berlin.
Although we will likely not be able to make it this year, my wife and I have attended this event a number of times in the past and found it somber, moving, and stirring. It's both a remembrance of the sorrow of that terrible day and a tribute to America. It's also refreshingly non-partisan on a day when the focus should be on what unites us as Americans.